Ayurveda antistress therapy in Srilanka: my burnout solution

Ayur .. what? Ayurveda!

When it comes to health, you I didn’t really care about it until I got really sick, I took it for granted. And when you experience something like burnout you start searching for a solution and it does not lie in western medicine. We’re great when you break a leg, but when you break your inner energy, it’s a different world.

My experience with Ajurveda antistress therapy:

One month after my burnout I started to notice that I am not moving anywhere -  I was still tired, I could not sleep, my chest was burning like hell and the thought that it could take a few more months to get better was scary. I was scrolling Instagram, when I saw the post from Zen zone. YES! I thought. This is it. I consulted my doctor, bought the plane ticket and 3 days later I was in Srilanka, attending Ayurvedic anti-stress therapy, perfect for burnout sindrom. I had no idea what is ajurveda or what to expect - I just had a really good feeling about it and I promised myself that I will stay open-minded all the time.

The flight there was horrible - my chest hurt like hell if I was even a bit stressed, so a bumpy flight and snow storm on the way to Istanbul did not really help. I was actually scared that I will have a heart attack or something like that on a plane. The destiny kicked in - on the flight from Istanbul to Srilanka I was actually sitting next to Srilanka’s Minster for health and there were 15 doctors surrounding me, coming for a conference in Zurich.

Siddhalepa resort was recommended by Zen Zone and the whole experience was great. Everything started with a doctor check-up, that lasted 2 hours. They prescribed me a diet, a few pills and explained my daily ritual for next 10 days: yoga in the morning, breakfast, doctor consultation, 2-3 hours of therapies (massage, bath, sth else), lunch, rest, meditation, dinner, sleep.

The whole experience was hard core. It was not vacations, it was hard work. Eating fresh and healthy food was great but after 5 days of brown rice I was going crazy. Beginning with massage was nice, but then came the shirodhara. They were pouring oil on my forehead to calm my head, that was still full of thought and ideas. It felt like the weight of my thought moved to my body - i literally did nothing the whole day, since it felt like my legs and arms have 1000 kilos. In the end, the weight went outside of my body. I felt light in my head for the first time in my life. No thoughts. Pure silence. It was new and amazing and i think people that meditate a lot experience this feeling. For someone that is thinking all the time, it was like a well-deserved vacations for the brain. And then, my body could start recovering as well. I could not do anything on yoga the first days and on the last day i did 10 sun salutations. Chest pain was gone and i slept like a baby again, 8 hours without waking up in the night.

The best question that my doctor asked me, was: “tell me about your lifestyle”. I found it weird, but the only word i saw there, was: BUSY. I finally realized how ridiculous my life was, I was running from one project to another, I never rested. I didn’t know how to rest, how to take it easy.

6 months later, I saw that I can attend Ayurveda course in Ljubljana and learn more about the philosophy, background and how to implement it in my life. Of course I applied!

What is Ayurveda in my own understanding: science about how to live a good life. The purpose is to discover, how to live the best life possible based on your way of thinking, working, living, your body etc. You can adapt the way you eat, the way you live, who is your partner, why do you have certain health problems - it is all coming together.

I will write more about Ayurveda, my main learnings and how I changed my life because of it once we finish the course. Until then … stay curious. Or simply Google it and learn everything about it.

Lifestyle changes after burnout: on my way from busy to balanced

Be productive! Be effective! Work hard! Do 1001 things in a day! Create a startup, build a house, have children, volounteer, create an ngo, take care of your family, nurture relationships with your friends, be social, be fun, be loving, be patient, be responsible, be adventorous, be everything.

We live in a fucked up world. We've come to a place where we schedule coffees two weeks in advance and where we can't have a beer with our friends before 7 pm, since it became normal that we work late every day. Party on Friday in unimaginable - we're all way to tired for it. Do you know what I'm talking about? And the worse of all - in the end we don't have the time or energy to have sex. Who has the time to have sex, right? Say whaaat?!?

I'm glad to see that the trend is changing, since I recently noticed some articles that already expose the sick culture of being busy. We're finally getting that being busy isn't a cool thing.
"Tell me you remember you are still a human being, not just a human doing. " is a quote I like from this article. Another one nails it with the title already: Busy is the new stupid.

Since I had a major burnout in November, I've made some serious changes in my lifestyle. Worse things I experienced with burnout:

• I could not stand up to go on a toilet on my own,  I was lying on the couch and Jošt had to pick me up,
• I walked slowlier than a 90-year old person would: I needed 90 minutes to reach a destination I'd usually reach in 20 minutes,
• I had major chest pain everytime I experienced stress - even the smallest stressful situation made my chest felt like it's burning,
• Once my chest pain was so strong that I felt like I'm having a heart attack (later I learned it was a panic attack).

I never imagined that my body can loose all it's phisical strenght due to very high amouts of stress, long work hours etc. I'm sharing my experience so that you can maybe use this strategies to prevent burnout, before it even happens. And note: the fact that you have trouble sleeping is one of the first signs that sth is not okay.

Two important questions I got that inspired me to change:

1. Describe me your lifestyle, asked me ajurvedic doctor on my antistress therapy in Sri lanka in December. I was like: what kind of question is that? But then I kind of said the only word that came to my mind at the moment: busy.

2. Do you take rest? asked me another doctor, that is leading a group therapy for people that have experienced mobbing. I was looking at her and I said: what do you mean by taking rest? I do sleep, right? She smiled and said: do you take rest during the day? We both knew what my answer was.

So, I decided that I want to come to the point, where I answer the question about my lifestyle with the word balanced. And for that, I obviously need to rest more. For some of you that are already taking it easy some of the things I will write may sound completely crazy. For all busy bees - I'm sure you'll be able to relate.

My small steps towards balanced lifestyle:

1. I have empty spaces in my calendar. For the past few years, I didn't have empty spaces in my calendar, at least not during the week. Every afternoon and evening, I did something: hobbies, sports, educational events, meetings, work groups, hanging out with my friends. Although those things are very enjoyable, they require some energy. And even if I as an complete extrovert gain energy from people, it was exhausting. 

2. I am my priority and I listen to my body. Not my work, my friends, my ngos - it's all about me and my energy. When I'm tired, I rest. When I feel like going out on a walk, I go out and take a walk. When I feel sleepy, I sleep. We often do things even if we're tired. I remember going to a late meeting, even though I felt dizzy from the day I had. I never said no to a beer - I mean, that's fun, right? I had to attend all the events I was interested in - othervise I would miss out, you know ... and of course, I had to finish all my work and I stayed longer, if it was needed - it was my responsibility, right?

3. I'm late with some deadlines. For the past few years, I tried to be as professonal as possible with everything I did. I was (almost) always very efficient, organized, productive, proactive. I followed deadlines and often I did more than I was asked. Now, being professional isn't the most important priority anymore. Since I am the priority, I prefer to miss a deadline, if I feel tired. I still feel very guilty, if I take time for myself instead of finishing some work, but I know it's for the best. And you know what I realized? That in most situations, other people are late with deadlines too and the only person worried and feeling very bad about it is me.

4. I do a lot of sports. I grew up in an extremly sporty family, where sport is basically no. 1 value. As a high school student I wanted to show my parents that I'm not following their path and I didn't do that much sports anymore, also during my studies every meeting, educational event, work I had, coffee with a friend, everything was more important than sports. I still mostly did some sports 2 times a week but I find that a bare minimum, since for my family doing sport every day was sth normal. Now, I do a lot of sports and I'm becoming addicted to get sweaty once a day, so I'm at 5-6 times a week at the moment. And it feels great and so natural - I mean, we have 24 hours a day, how could I not take 1 hour to do some sports? Even a walk to the city centre can work and everyone can move for 30 minutes a day - if we want to and if we make it our priority. 

5. I work for myself. I think it's very hard to have a usual 9-5 job (ok, let's be honest, it's mostly 8-6) and give yourself that much care and love. That's why I hope I can maintain what I have at the moment, since it's working out really great. I work less - on one hand, because I simply can't work for 8 hours yet (my doctor said it will take next 6 months to get back to "normal" again) and on the other hand - I don't want to. Who decided that we have to work 8 hours a day? It's a total nonsense. I think I work 4-6 hours a day. I take breaks, I do walks, sports inbetween. And don't get me wrong - I love working and I only do the things I love doing. Still, I don't find it healthy to sit behind the computer for 10 hours a day. So much sitting! So much typing! I need the sun, the air, the trees ...

6. I expect less from myself. I think that with a combination of a society pressure and our own beliefs, we create a deadly high expectations from ourselves: the list of all the things I should do in 2017. WTF? I believe in setting goals, but now I also believe in downsizing them, at least in terms of our achievements. I don't mean that you have to become a person with no ambitions. I will always stay ambitious - maybe I can just imagine and that I will not start an ngo, startup company, finish my master thesis, create an online movement, read 469 books, attend 16 educational programms - all in one year.

Life isn't going anywhere and it's very hard to be a part of it, when you get sick. So, if I want to take care of others, our society, I first need to take care of myself. It sounds extremely stupid now that I'm writing it and it's so simple - but I guess to had to experience sth really bad to really get it.

There is still a lot of work to be done and I'm working on changing my attitude towards work, managing time etc. But so far, I'm satisfied with the recent changes I've made. And I really hope they are not only temporary - I still need to get over the feeling of guilt for being less productive, feeling of losing time since I haven't launched xy project yet even though it's a great idea etc. But at the moment, I wouldn't describe my lifestyle as busy anymore. I wouldn't describe it as balanced either, but I'm going there or at least I'm going somewhere away from busy.